I’d have to say I go out pretty often, experiencing the night life that Austin has to offer and the many wondrous sites and adventures you can experience in one night are kind of hard to place into a nut shell. There are a vast amount of gorgeous people out there especially amongst the dance community. Knowing how to dance has helped me break the ice countless times to meet new people and enjoy the art 10 times better. But has anyone noticed that regardless of how much fun you are having with your partner male or female, things are not as they used to be in terms of devotion and chivalry? As if your kindness and dedication is now a days seen as a form of weakness and cowardice. Yes, definitely have fun and do your thang, shake your booty and whatever, but when it comes right down to it at some point don’t you want to know that your outreach for the same amounts of affection will come back to you ten fold?

I was raised old school, taught and nurtured by my grandparents. Always show respect, dignity, endless amounts of love and devotion to a woman you love or eventually will fall in love with. Both my grandparents grew up together in a small Mexican farm town, loved each other since grade school. Happily married with, of course, certain drawbacks here and there. Had 11 kids and lived off of a miniscule amount of money in a home jam packed with children but loved every moment of it. My grandfather always opening the door to his wife while around the house, at an outing or when entering their vehicle. He always told her every day she was amazing and beautiful. With the minimal amount they had and living beyond their means, he would manage to get her a little something to rekindle the romance and love from so many years ago. Eventually my grandmother passed away and from the day she left this earth, my grandfather mourned every waking moment for about 3 and a half years until his day came. They loved each other until their very last breathes.

Well, in giving this small history of what I grew up seeing and believing of this definition of love, I have harshly come to realize this no longer exists. I too have these same morals and etiquettes adopted by the atmosphere my grandparents portrayed in their home. I have yet to come across a woman who will appreciate these attributes. She would instead see them as a weakness and some what of an annoyance. I do definitely see that women are independent and have their own values and I will never disrespect that in any shape or form or have I ever. The fact that someone comes around with the qualities most women seek are right in front of them and in their grasp to instead decide to throw it away because its preferable to have someone who is completely opposite? I understand that media/entertainment has a lot to do with what many people in these generations now a days are being fed to believe that life and love is supposed to be complicated, rough and filled with drama.

Many times too often I walked down the streets of Austin during these blissful nights of partying and dancing that there are far too many people who show lack of respect in their relationships. People arguing all the time and not giving back the same affection and instead being shallow and disrespectful, yet the man or woman tends to crawl right back to them later on that night. How is it not comprehensible to believe that things don’t have to be that way and chivalry does exist and shouldn’t be seen as something hard to believe or too good to be true, and instead shunned away? I have had my fair share of the liars, the cheaters, the psychotic ones, and the indecisive ones as well. But all of which have the same thing to say, “You hold me up so high and make me feel very special around your friends“, and use it as a form of conflict in the relationship. That right there is something that till this very day doesn’t sit right with me.

Also, before anyone goes on and asks “where do you find these women?” or “you’re finding the same type of woman“, I would like to address I have never had a specific preference in a woman. My only concern is if she is fun to be around, loves to laugh, cares and is warm hearted. I have dated different races, ages (legal age of course :-P), cultural backgrounds, views, financial instabilities, and interests. We live in a town that has a fruit salad of many different kinds of women damn it! There is definitely a lot to pick from. Yet all of which find it hard to accept someone who still holds a woman up high with respect, dignity, and will not have any restraints showing their affection and love. The sacrifices endured to be with someone are easily gone unseen, the fact that its hard enough to live through life staying above water and living life as best as possible is ignored and made meaningless because a spoiled attribute arises within them.

With 300 dollars in my pocket started my life 7 years ago in this beautiful town of Austin and some way some how I made it and I’m doing great. But these minor hiccups that come around and shred you up from the inside when someone cannot fathom the possibility of happiness with one another takes its toll every so often. Now with all I have been through and all I have seen thus far I am still an optimist to this emotional invisible gift called love, because I cannot say all woman are the same because then the phrase “all men are the same” would have to be true too, and that is definitely not true if I know I’m not like every other guy. So not all women and men are the same, I suppose just life styles are changing and no longer in sync as before. So does anyone out there see the same signs as I have about chivalry being tossed to curb and walked on like a dirty dollar that no longer has value in this world? And are there any positive out look on finding a genuine person to be your soul mate that might cherish these qualities out in a bar or club while out and about having the time of your life? I know that at times peoples views and ideals are jaded by the glorious times one can have while enjoying the night life, but is the thought still lingering in the back of your head eating at you saying “damn I should’ve appreciated the fact that I once had a good thing, but decided to let it go” ? That is life I guess, just got to carry on carrying on.